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Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Mother's Day Trivia

yellow singMother's Day is one of the best ways to make every mom feel special, loved and cared for. A day dedicated to motherhood, it gives a child umpteen opportunity to express to his/her mom, as to how special and precious she is for him/her. However, did you know that there are numerous fun facts that are associated with the day? If no, then this would be the best way to surprise your mom on Mother's Day. Narrate to her some astonishing facts that she would not have known otherwise. To know about the various facts, trivia and traditions of Mother's Day, read through the following lines.

Mother's Day Trivia

  • The names of Chinese family often begin with a sign that means "mother". It's a nice way of honoring their moms, since a long time.
  • The ancient Greeks celebrated Mother's Day in spring, like we do. They used to honor Rhea, "mother of the gods" with honey-cakes and fine drinks and flowers at dawn.
  • Mother Shipton was a Prophetess in Britain, 500 years ago. She could see the future and predicted that another Queen Elizabeth would sit on the throne of England. (QE II)
  • Japan's Imperial family traces their descent from Omikami Amaterasu, the Mother of the World.
  • Julia Ward Howe wrote the Battle Hymm of the Republic and was a staunch fighter for women's rights. She staged an unusual protest for peace in Boston, by celebrating a special day for mothers. Julia wanted to call attention to the need for peace by pointing out mothers who were left alone in the world without their sons and husbands after the bloody Franco-Prussian War.
  • Hindu scripture credits the Great Mother, Kali Ma, with the invention of writing through alphabets, pictographs and beautiful sacred images.
  • Mother Goose is one of the most popular of all children's entertainers. Her books and stories have been loved for many generations.
  • Native American Indian women have long been honored with the name, "Life of the Nation" for their gift of motherhood to the tribes.
  • Ancient Egyptians believed that "Bast" was the mother of all cats on Earth, and that cats were sacred animals.
  • Buddha honored mothers when he said, "As a mother, even at the risk of her own life, loves and protects her child, so let a man cultivate love without measure toward the whole world."
  • In the Bible, Eve is credited with being the "Mother of All the Living."
  • During the 1600's, England celebrated a day called "Mothering Sunday." Servants would go home to see their families, bringing cakes and sweets to their moms. This custom was called "going a-mothering". Each mother would recieve a simnel-cake (Latin for "fine flour) and mother's would give a blessing to their children.
  • Anna Jarvis of Philadelphia began the campaign that brought about the official observance of Mother's Day in the United states. Her mother died, and Anna wanted all mothers to be remembered. She asked that white carnations be the official mother's day symbol. In 1914, President Woodrow Wilson signed the orders that made Mother's Day a national holiday.
  • Just nine years later, Anna filed a lawsuit in an effort to stop the over- commercialization of Mother's Day. She lost her fight. Now, cards, letters, candy and dinners out mark Mother's Day for most families. Anna had hoped for a day of reflection and quiet prayer by families, thanking God for all that mothers had done.
  • Mother Earth is also known as "Terra Firma". That title is a Latin translation of some lines from one of the Greek poet, Homer's, greatest poems.
  • In Yugoslavia on "Materitse," "Materice," or Mother's Day, the children tie up their mother, releasing her only when she has paid them with sweets or other goodies.
  • In France children Mother's Day is refered to as Fete des Meres. It provides children and adults to honour their mothers and give her gifts and treats. Mother's Day is celebrated on the last Sunday in May. It is treated more like a family birthday. Everyone in the family gathers for a special meal.
  • In Europe, people on Mother's Day honor their mothers as well as the church. They respect the "Mother Church" - the spiritual power that gave them life and protected them from harm. The church festival got blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration.
  • In Spain Mother's Day is celebrated on 8th December. It is closely associated with Mother Mary - the mother of Jesus. On this children send special cards, chocolates, flowers and other presents to their mothers. But many children make their own presents for their mothers.
  • In Sweden Mother's Day is on the last Sunday in May and is a family holiday. The Swedish Red Cross sells small plastic flowers on the days leading up to Mother's Day. The money raised from the sale of the flowers is used to help needy mothers and their children.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Mothers Day Celebration

Celebrate Mothers Day

 hotel-rose-petalsIf you are a kid, your momma is your angel, if you are a teenager, she is your best pal and if you are an adult, she is your best secret-sharer.

Throughout her life, she has been playing different roles in your life to make it smoother and easy-going. She has showered you with love when you needed it the most; she has been the stress reliever when you were overstressed due to your forthcoming examinations, she has been your support when all other people around you were underestimating you, she has been the shoulder to cry when you had a break up. You can look back at any stage of your life and find your mother standing by you with that never fading smile of hers.
Let this mother's day be an ultra special day for not only your mom but your grandma too. Make them feel that they hold the most special place in your heart.


Here are few tips exclusively for making your mother' day special.

  • You can interview your mother. Let her feel how much interest you take in her life. Ask about her childhood, her kindergarten friends, her teenage, her first crush, her favorite job, the day you were born and any other thing that you feel must have been special in hLove-Letters-03er life. End this conversation by expressing love and empathy for her.
  • Arrange the best get together you can arrange for her. Invite all the people who you think hold special positions in your mother's life. Order a special cake for her and arrange a barbeque.
  • Take your mother for a shopping spree and buy her all the things she had been longing for.
  • You can also arrange a trip for both of you to some place of your momma's choice.
  • Nothing else would touch her more than a hand made gift. Bake a cake for her. Design a card and make a wooden jewelry box for her. Create a small party place on your terrace and enjoy with your mom.
  • Arrange a small get together with all your siblings and create a beautiful ambience using old photo albums of her. Share your joys and your memories - laugh and enjoy your time together. At the end of your party gift your mother with the best family photograph you have, that too specially framed according to her choice.
  • Take your momma for lunch to the restaurant where she used to give you a treat when you were a kid.
  • If for any reason you can't be with your mother on this special day, make her realize her importance by sending her a bouquet of flower along with a special cake and box of chocolates with a handmade greetings card that includes a very loving message exclusively for her. Also, leave a voice message to her specially to wish 'mother's day'.
  • If your momma is a card player, remember to invite her for the family card game. Make her feel special by serving her favorite snacks and drink with your own hands. Also, make up your own coupon book and offer to help her any work she needs to be done.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Love Letters! Romantic Feelings! Inspiring Thoughts!

Writing a Love Letter


    Writing a love letter shouldn't be that difficult. All you have to do is open your heart and let the words flow, right? But finding the right words to profess your undying love can be a daunting task. Here are some simple tips to help you get those romantic feelings down on paper.
1. Set the mood. Just as you would want a private place to have an intimate conversation, you should also have a quiet place to write your love letter. Don't attempt to do it while sitting in the middle of a lunchroom or while bouncing along on the bus on your way home from work. Find a quiet place, put on some romantic music to put you in the right frame of mind, and relax.
2. Use the proper tools. Your love letter is a personal message to someone special, so your method of writing it should also be special. Forget the computer. For this endeavor, you'll need to hark back to the old days of pen and paper. It doesn't matter if your handwriting is imperfect; it's more personal than 10 pt Arial font on a sheet of computer paper. Get some nice stationery and a matching envelope from your local office supply store or look online!

3. Open with a romantic salutation. "Dear [Jane or John]" is too common to start a heartfelt love letter. Choose something more loving, such as "My dearest Jane" or "My darling John." You can also start with a loving salutation that doesn't include your significant other's name, such as "To My True Love" or "To My One and Only." If you have a pet nickname, that's a good option, too, as it sets an intimate mood for the rest of your letter.
4. Tell your loved one why you're writing. You may want to start out by saying, "I've been thinking of you nonstop since..." or "I thought of you today when... " or "I have been wanting to tell you this for a long time..."
5. Express your love. Tell your significant other why you love him or her. There are many ways to do this. You might want to recall the first time you knew you were in love with this person, or list some of the things you love about him or her. You can also explain how you feel when you're together, and include your hopes or plans for your future together.
6. Include a romantic quote. Love is such an overwhelming emotion, it's hard to explain all the wonderful things about it in a simple letter. So borrow some words from a professional wordsmith. A romantic quote can sum up a plethora of feelings in just a few phrases.
7. End with a romantic closing. "Sincerely yours" or "Best wishes" are fine valedictions for an everyday letter to a friend, but a love letter needs something more heartfelt. Try closing with a phrase such as "All my love," "Yours forever" or "Your Loving [Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Husband, Wife, etc.]" and then sign your name.
8. Present your letter to your loved one. Find a romantic way to present your letter. Lay it on the pillow with a long-stemmed rose, send it in a bottle, or go out for a romantic walk or intimate dinner.

This is an extract from a love letter written by Robert Browning to Elizabeth Barrett Browning. In today's fast pace world where love messages are conveyed through mobile phones and e-cards we may be sometimes asking ourselves a question. Have we lost our emotional powers to write wonderful love letters to our beloved to melt her heart? May be or may not be, but whatever it may be let us try to learn a few tips on how to write a beautiful love letter. Love-Letters-04




We must remember that a love letter can bring out our deepest emotions and we need to be careful as to how we put it across to our lover. A woman is God's most beautiful creation. She is tender and she would love to read a letter, which touches her heart. Remember that a mirror once broken can be glued but the crack remains eternally. When you are writing a love letter remember never to use any words or sentence, which may cause even a hairline crack in her heart. She may be kind enough to read it but the feeling of any strong words may make her sad.

Always remember never to portray your image as someone of high status or value. She will connect with a person only from the heart and not anything else. Tell her that you love her for what she is and plead her if she can love you for what you are. A love letter is all about bringing out your emotions. Tell her what you felt when you saw her the first time and then again and again and again. How you waited for her when she got down from the bus. How the glances you'll shared conveyed a million unspoken words. How the silent tear drops that flowed from your eyes have never gone to waste.

Start the letter with a very touching line. If you are writing a letter for a first time you can start by writing the name of your beloved. This can immediately connect both of you on a friendly note rather than be too romantic. Sometimes over romanticism can kill. The body of the letter should flow from the day you saw her and how your feeling developed over time and today what makes you write the letter. Don't forget to tell her that you see in her your picture perfect lady with whom you want to spend of your life with.

If you are writing a letter to your beloved with whom you are having a relationship for sometime tell her that how you have fallen in Love with her over and over again. Mention to her that whatever she has given you have made you where you stand today. Mention how much indebted you are to her and what your life will be without her. Last but not the least tell her that you will always have your shoulders for her whenever she needs them and you will hold her hands eternally.

Writing a love letter to your wife is a great symbolism of love that you have for her even after years of marriage. The beautiful kids that she has given you or the support that she has given you all along during your ups and downs in life.

When you are ending a love letter end with a line that summarizes your feelings for her. Something like Love always, yours forever can make an impression that she will never forget.

A love letter is cherished for life by someone. Hence dip it with emotions and never try to be diplomatic in your language.



  A love letter can be the perfect way to convey your emotions to the person that you care about. Unfortunately, writing this love letter can prove to be a difficult task. While some people can write down their emotions easily, others struggle with the idea of a love letter altogether. If you want to pen a love letter, here are five different types of love letters to write to a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Things Unsaid
The first type of love letter to consider is the love letter that holds all of the things that you do not say. This is the perfect love letter for those who are shy about your emotions. You can write down all of the positive things you see in your significant other and in your relationship. When you write down the things you never say, you open your lover up to a new side of your emotions. This is a powerful way to show your soul mate how much he means to you.
Things You Always Say
Another love letter to consider is a letter that simply consists of the things that you say on a normal basis. Putting these thoughts and words into a letter will give your sweetheart a simple reminder of your love, commitment and emotion. They can take the letter with them wherever they go, reminding themselves of the things they usually hear from you.
If you are feeling creative, write a poem. You can easily write poems that convey all of the emotions that you feel for your one and only and for your relationship. A poem will show your sweetie that you care enough to take the time to craft something special for them.
Song Lyrics
If you enjoy music, consider writing song lyrics about your lover. You can write lyrics to a song that already exists, or create a brand new song. Either option will show your honey that you are thinking of them and will let them know exactly how you feel about them.
There are some relationships that thrive off of sarcasm and humor. If you have this kind of relationship, consider a humorous love letter. This love letter will still convey your emotions, but will do so in a way that your boyfriend will find enjoyable.
There are multiple approaches that you can take to the love letter-writing process. You simply need to think about the person that you are dating, and the kind of relationship that you have. Certain types of love letters will fit your relationship, while others will not. Take the time to consider what you want to say, and to find the correct way to say it. While it may take a little extra work to take these things into consideration, it will help you to know what love letters to write to a boyfriend or girlfriend.


Love Letters" Letters of Days Old!

"Would I, if I could, supplant one of any of the affections that I know to have taken root in you - that great and solemn one, for instance? I feel that if I could get myself remade, as if turned to gold, I WOULD not even then desire to become more than the mere setting to that diamond you must always wear”
The regard and esteem you now give me, in this letter,and which I press to my heart and bow my head upon, is all I can take and all too embarrassing, using all my gratitude!

A Romantic Love Letter by John Keats to Fanny Brawne

Keats and Brawne were introduced to each other in 1818 in Hampstead. Keats who was twenty-three at that time fell in love with the sixteen-year-old Brawne.

He started writing her love letters that reflected the amount of love he had for her. He quoted in one of his letters “I have been astonished that men could die martyrs of religion. I have shuddered at it”. The famous poet died at the age of 25. His last poem is named as “Fanny”, written in the memoirs of the love of his life.
“Wednesday Morning.
My Dearest Girl,
I have been a walk this morning with a book in my hand, but as usual, I have been occupied with nothing but you: I wish I could say in an agreeable manner. I am tormented day and night. They talk of my going to Italy. ‘Tis certain I shall never recover if I am to be so long separate from you: yet with all this devotion to you I cannot persuade myself into any confidence of you….
You are to me an object intensely desirable — the air I breathe in a room empty of you in unhealthy. I am not the same to you — no — you can wait — you have a thousand activities — you can be happy without me. Any party, anything to fill up the day has been enough.
How have you pass’d this month? Who have you smil’d with? All this may seem savage in me. You do not feel as I do — you do not know what it is to love — one day you may — your time is not come….
I cannot live without you, and not only you but chaste you; virtuous you. The Sun rises and sets, the day passes, and you follow the bent of your inclination to a certain extent — you have no conception of the quantity of miserable feeling that passes through me in a day — Be serious! Love is not a plaything — and again do not write unless you can do it with a crystal conscience. I would sooner die for want of you than —
Yours for ever
J. Keats”

Romantic Love Letter from Beethoven to the Immortal Beloved

love_letter_new_jobBeethoven, one of the greatest musicians was ever born, is the reflection was true inspiration. During his early days, he worked as a musician at Bonn court orchestra. Within few years, he moved to Vienna to learn music from Mozart. Later, after his mother’s death he started taking musical lessons from Haydn, Albrechtsberger, Schenck and Salieri. Soon he earned a lot of fame, which took him to places for public performances. In 1798, he realized he was suffering from hearing disorder. By 1820, he became completely deaf and succumbed into writing "conversation notebooks".
Evening, Monday, July 6
You are suffering, my dearest creature - only now have I learned that letters must be posted very early in the morning on Mondays to Thursdays - the only days on which the mail-coach goes from here to K. - You are suffering - Ah, wherever I am, there you are also - I will arrange it with you and me that I can live with you. What a life!!! thus!!! without you - pursued by the goodness of mankind hither and thither - which I as little want to deserve as I deserve it - Humility of man towards man - it pains me - and when I consider myself in relation to the universe, what am I and what is He - whom we call the greatest - and yet - herein lies the divine in man - I weep when I reflect that you will probably not receive the first report from me until Saturday - Much as you love me - I love you more - But do not ever conceal yourself from me - good night - As I am taking the baths I must go to bed - Oh God - so near! so far! Is not our love truly a heavenly structure, and also as firm as the vault of heaven?

Romantic Love Letter by Lewis Carroll to May Mileham

“7 Lushington Road, Eastbourne
Dearest May,
Thank you very much indeed for the peaches. They were delicious. Eating one was almost as nice as kissing you; Of course not quite; I think, if I had to give the exact measurement, I should say three – quarters as nice; We are having such a lovely time here; and the sands are beautiful. I only wish I could some day come across you, washing your pocket -handkerchief in a pool among the rocks? But I wander on the beach, and look for you, in vain; and then I say, Where is May? And the stupid boatmen reply, It isn’t May, sir? It’s September?’ But it doesn’t comfort me.
Always your Loving C.L.D.”

Romantic Love Letter by Lord Byron to Annabella Milbanke

Lord Byron began courtship with Anne Isabella Milbanke, whom he married later on. After some initial refusals, Milbanke finally decided to marry Byron. Soon enough she was ill treated by the great poet that followed into a separation. They had a private wedding ceremony at Seaham Hall in County Durham on January 2, 1815. Byron after their wedding went into severe financial crisis and started growing more and more upset day by day.
“November 16, 1814
My Heart -
We are thus far separated - but after all one mile is as bad as a thousand, - which is a great consolation to one who must travel six hundred before he meets you again. If it will give you any satisfaction - I am as comfortless as a pilgrim with peas in his shoes - and as cold as Charity - Chastity or any other Virtue.”

Famous Love Letter by Victor Hugo to Adele Foucher

cupidVictor Hugo fell in love with Adele Foucher, during his early teen age. There was not much support from his family, especially from his mother. After his mother’s death, he married Foucher. They were deeply in love and raised 5 children.
“My dearest,
When two souls, which have sought each other for, however long in the throng, have finally found each other ...a union, fiery and pure as they themselves are... begins on earth and continues forever in heaven.
This union is love, true love... a religion, which deifies the loved one, whose life comes from devotion and passion, and for which the greatest sacrifices are the sweetest delights.
This is the love, which you inspire in me... Your soul is made to love with the purity and passion of angels; but perhaps it can only love another angel, in which case I must tremble with apprehension.
Yours forever,
Victor Hugo (1821)”

Famous Love Letter by James Joyce to Nora Barnacle

James Joyce was romantically involved with Nora Barnacle, whom he finally married. Time and again many of his writings suggest that Nora was his biggest inspiration and closest companion. They began their courtship soon after they met, and finally got married in 1931. Although there was a lot of differences in them, yet they stayed together. In some of her writings, Nora has tagged Joyce as a weak man

15 August, 1904
My dear Nora,
It has just struck me. I came in at half past eleven. Since then I have been sitting in an easy chair like a fool. I could do nothing. I hear nothing but your voice. I am like a fool hearing you call me 'Dear.' I offended two men today by leaving them coolly. I wanted to hear your voice, not theirs.
When I am with you, I leave aside my contemptuous, suspicious nature. I wish I felt your head on my shoulder. I think I will go to bed.
I have been a half-hour writing this thing. Will you write something to me? I hope you will. How am I to sign myself? I won't sign anything at all, because I don't know what to sign 5.



 Deeper Steps to a Perfect Love Letter

  Love can be expressed in a thousand different ways. Romantic gifts, cozy moments together, candlelit dinners, beautiful poems—all of these are ways that people have found to show their love for one another. But if your significant other isn’t nearby, it can sometimes be hard to contain the torrent of emotion that builds up within you. Or you might want to tell them how you feel, but the words just stick in your throat. This is exactly the situation that the love letter was invented for! So just sit down with a pen and paper or in front of your computer, and compose a message that is sure to melt their heart.
1. Say how much you miss them.
Love letters began to get popular back in the days when two lovers who were separated from each other had no other form of communication. Even today, love notes or even love emails are usually written to let the other person know how deeply they’re being missed.
Example: (from a letter by Lord Byron) My Heart—We are thus far separated—but after all one mile is as bad as a thousand—which is a great consolation to one who must travel six hundred before he meets you again.

2. Mention what you love about them.
This is the obvious part! Tell your significant other what it is about them that causes you to love them so much. Compliment their qualities, and say how badly you need them in your life.
Example: (from a letter by James Joyce) When I am with you, I leave aside my contemptuous, suspicious nature. I wish I felt your head on my shoulder.
3. Share your fondest memories.
It’s a great idea to remind your loved one of the times you’ve spent together, so that you can both look forward to seeing one another again. Pick an intimate moment that was shared between the two of you, and mention it lovingly.
Example: (from a letter by Lewis Carroll) Thank you very much indeed for the peaches…Eating one was almost as nice as kissing you; Of course not quite; I think, if I had to give the exact measurement, I should say three-quarters as nice.
4. Express your deepest feelings.
The advantage of a letter is that you can pour your heart out onto the page. Any words that you might find difficult to say in person can be expressed here. Use this opportunity to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend how you really feel.
Example: (from a letter by Victor Hugo) This union is love, true love…a religion, which deifies the loved one, whose life comes from devotion and passion, and for which the greatest sacrifices are the sweetest delights.
5. Look forward to the future.
Try not to end your love letter on a sad or painful note. Remember that you will soon see your loved one again, and let them know how happy this makes you. At the end of the letter, tell them how much you’re looking forward to seeing them.
Example: (from a letter by Beethoven) Ah, wherever I am, there you are also—I will arrange it with you and me that I can live with you.

What a life!!! Thus!!!   myself.”


How Not to Write A Love Letter (15 Ways)

If, in the past, you sat down, took pen (never pencil) in hand, and wrote a love letter to the object (person) of your affection and that person never responded, or has disappeared entirely, there may be a reason. In fact there may be 15 reasons.

There are certain things that you just should not do or write in a love letter.

You should not (or never):

  • Send a love letter email - This would feel like a cheesy form letter. Are you writing everybody in the hopes of getting a response from somebody? It takes no effort at all to change "Dear Somebody" to "Dear Everybody" - with just the push of the delete button. Besides, a handwritten letter says a lot about you, literally. A graphologist* can take one look at your love letter and gather quite a bit of information. You want your sincerity to shine through!
  • Be an illiterate - No one, let me repeat this, no one wants an idiot. Saying foolish things aloud is bad enough but then to immortalize them on paper - big mistake. There is nothing wrong with coming across as educated, intelligent, bright, smart, literate, etc. If you doubt your spelling abilities then write an email first, spell check it - then handwrite your love letter. Better to err on the side of being mistaken for someone intelligent rather than an idiot.
  • Write page after page after page - Too boring and tedious. No one wants to keep reading and reading and reading - until you finally get to the point. Less is more and shows you have substance - and can show it on one page.
  • Say "I" "I" "I" - This makes it appear as if it is all about you, and you want this relationship for your benefit. Remember, love is supposed to be about sharing in a relationship. Not "I" -ing it to death.
  • Use computer paper, loose-leaf paper, or a brown paper bag - At best this would show a terrible lack of imagination. At worst it would show the height of shocking cheapness. Take the time to purchase some good paper or at least colored paper. Even weak writing looks better on good stationery. But no clowns or well-known cartoon characters. It may come across as a personal comment about your character - or the person you are writing.
  • Sprinkle the letter with perfume, or cologne - This is an old, tiresome, unromantic, unimaginative, overdone, rather desperate idea. It would seem as if you could not sit down and dash off a sincere letter of heart-felt love and affection. Instead you had to go find some chemical laced concoction and fool around with it. If the object of your affection has allergies - you probably won't see that person ever again - and be hated in the process.
  • Send a love letter to a man if you are a woman - Sooooo very easily 10842823380Kz9v9misconstrued. He may read your love letter as a contract to share your apartment, good credit, bedroom, bed, food, etc. with him because...well because you put it in writing. Let him write you a hand-written love letter. Even an amateur graphologist* can figure out a lot about a person from his handwriting - and you need to know who you are dealing with. Talk may be cheap but writing shows some investment.
  • Propose marriage - Cowardly. The eyes, and body language will tell your true intentions.
  • Write more than one - Don't keep dashing off letter after letter. Make your point in one beautiful, thoughtful, well-written love letter - on good stationery, written with a pen that does not skip or leak. If you get a response then take your time and write another. In the interim you are supposed to plan picnics and arrange dinner dates and so on. Your next love letter can refer to those happily shared moments - which you have created.
  • Make an attempt at poetry - No, never. Don't think that just because you can rhyme love with glove and dove and above makes you a poet. Poetry is a true beautiful art. Bad poetry is frightening. You may refer to the writings of a true poet but that shouldn't be in your first letter. In your first love letter, your lovely and sincere writing should shine through, not the writing of a dead poet.
  • Write "You" "You" "You" - Sounds too much like you are looking for a servant and are creating a list of all the things your servant will do (aka a control freak monster).
  • Promise the moon and the stars and a rainbow - This is quite lovely and you can write about such, but it should be followed with something realistic, something concrete like: If our date starts at eight, just know, I will never be late (there's a little rhyme for you - and promised punctuality gets a gold star).
  • Start a relationship with a love letter - If you hardly know the person, a love letter is always inappropriate. You cannot possibly love a person who you see on the subway, or walks past your house once a week, or gets on the elevator with you. Don't confuse lust with love. Love letters are a continuation of something positive, something that is already happening. A love letter to someone you hardly know comes across as stalking. Creepy stuff.
  • Doodle all around the edges - No. Just say 'no' to doodling all around the edges or anywhere else.
  • Sign off with "Luv Ya" or "Your Boo" - If you cannot sign off with your real name, you will come across as someone in a committed relationship - with someone else - who is prepared to say somewhere down the line, "See hon, I didn't write that. That person over there is not the object of my affection. That love letter, or whatever it is, doesn't have my name on it."

The best thing(s) to do is:

Keep it short, sweet, simple, and sincere.



Letter Writing

Fragments of friendship, made by women in the Victorian Era, used their ingenuity and clever hands to fashion objects to give away including the letters they so carefully wrote. Many would take care to turn an ordinary envelope into a work of art with illustrations and or painted script, and even addresses rendered with intricate pin pricks. And Sealing wax was a favorite way to protect the contents of the envelope.

There were suitors known as faint-hearted lovers who couldn't muster a proposal. According to The Lover's Casket, an etiquette book that strictly covered courting techniques, had indeed said that the suitor could write his proposal by letter if he could not bring himself to say the words.

The Lovers Letter Writer, a popular 19th-century English manual, supplied the answers to correct letter writing. Covering love, courtship, marriage, friendship, relationships and business. In all, there were 66 examples. The samples covered every conceivable social need along with a handy formula for a cryptogram meant to be read between the lines.

This example of a cryptogram was headed Female Ingenuity and was used by a newly married young lady who was obliged to show her husband all the letters she wrote.

I cannot be satisfied, my dearest friend;
blest as I am in the matrimonial state,
unless I pour into your friendly bosom,
which has ever been in unison with mine,
the various sensations which swell
with the liveliest emotions of pleasure, Victorian Letter Writing
my almost bursting heart. I tell you my dear
husband is the most amiable of men.
I have now been married seven weeks, and
have found the least reason to
repent the day that joined us.
My husband is
in person and manners far from resembling
ugly, cross, old, disagreeable and jealous
monsters, who think by confining to secure a wife;
it is his maxim to treat,
as a bosom friend and confidant, and not
as a plaything or menial slave, the woman
chosen to be his companion. Neither party,
he says should always obey implicitly;
but each yield to the other by turns.

The letter's message was:

I cannot be satisfied, my dearest friend,
unless I pour into your friendly bosom,
the various sensations which swell
my almost bursting heart. I tell you my dear
I have now been married seven weeks, and
repent the day that joined us.
My husband is
ugly, cross, old, disagreeable and jealous.
It is his maxim to treat
as a plaything or menial slave; the woman
he says, should always obey implicitly.

Another sample is to be used by a lady in answer to a letter in which her suitor intimates his wish to discontinue acquaintance. A lady should permit a suitor to withdraw, but not without having the last word.


I acknowledge the receipt of your last letter, which now lies before me, and in which you convey the intimation, that the position which, for some time past we have regarded each other, must henceforth be abandoned. Until the receipt of this letter, I had regarded you in the light of my future husband; you were, therefore, as you have reason to know, so completely the possessor of my affections, that I looked with indifference upon every other suitor. The remembrance of you never failed to give a fresh zest to the pleasures of life, and you were in my thoughts at the very moment in which I received your letter.

But deem me not so devoid of proper pride as to wish you to revoke your determination, from which I will not attempt to dissuade you, whether you may have made it in coll deliberation, or in precipitate haste. Sir, I shall endeavor to banish you from my affections, as readily and completely as you have banished me; and all that I shall now require from you is this, that you will return to me whatever letters you may have of mine, and which I may have written under a foolish confidence in your attachment, and when you were accredited as the future husband of,

Yours as may be,
Henrietta Allston

"Please never stop writing me letters-they always manage to make me feel like my higher self," poet Elizabeth Bishop once implored a friend." In this age of electronic correspondence, letter writing is much more personal or romantic than convenient email. And in an age that valued sentiment and friendship, creating souvenirs to be exchanged was part of the ceremony and the excitement, a reminder forever of the beauty found in the circle of love and friendship.

Find a quiet corner, your very own private domain. "I have everything I need…a page, a pen, and memory raining down on me in sleeves," wrote Harriet Doerr. Take up a clean page and write, but pay close attention to details, no scribbling here please. Calligraphy has always been a form of expressive handwriting. No matter which style you choose, remember that it's not just what you write, but how it is written.

The page itself may be decorated, or plain parchment will do. Get creative. Let your inner self decide what would be a proper expression of your feelings. Perhaps a pink satin ribbon weaved up along one side, through incisions in the page, and tied with a bow towards the top will do. Or by chance you've found the perfect commercial stationary to express your feelings.

And don't forget about the envelope. One shouldn't go to the trouble of creating a beautiful and or sentiment correspondence without considering the envelope. Have it match the stationary or have it stand on it's own. Maybe it could be something as simple as a satin ribbon threaded through slits on the flap and tied in a bow. Or decorate using rubber stamps.

You may decide to ensure the safety of your sentiment by using sealing wax on the flap. I find it best to heat the wax in a spoon and drip the wax onto the flap of the envelope.

No matter who you take the time to write-it is the thoughtful touch that makes your written message seem all the more sincere.

Scented Ink

Blend approximately 100 drops of essential oil (suggested oils are rose or lavender) with a teaspoon of vodka.

Add the mixture, a little at a time, to 2 ounces of ink (deep colors work best).

Stir and ready to use.


Oh! nature's noblest gift--my grey goose quill;
Slave of my thoughts, obedient to my will.
Torn from thy parent bird to form a pen.
That mighty instrument of little men!

Letter Writing

Write to me a letter
etched by Sunday morning
centered in a room where
returning robins sing
of the sea-swung
palms and beaches of
Florida. Your chosen words
will glint beyond
their stony use and point
to the history we sense in night, that lore
drunk on nocturnal
breezes (the polyphony of sleep)
when cricket chords mesmerize
wall shadows stretched
tight from your feet
until they forget to be faithful to your body.
When your letter arrives,
I will memorize your words, rendering
your syntax so finely all will be forgotten except
your dancing beyond the ink-stains,
a game of pretend really,
as if you were always
in this room.
--James Pate

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Love Messages! So Many Reasons I Love you

239-x600-film-brightstar-revImagine this: You are giving a bouquet of gorgeous roses to your beloved. You expect a generous hug, a peck on the cheek, or at least a warm "thank you". Instead you are asked, "Why do you love me?" It clearly indicates that the person you love wants you to sweep them off their feet with obviously genuine and meaningful flattering words. However, we agree that sometimes it becomes difficult to answer these spur of the moment questions even though you are in deep love with her. This question demands an intelligent answer that is more based on her attributes and gestures rather physical. For these monumental questions, we, at , bring you some momentary answers that will make you stand out among the rest. This can even be ideal for gifting on your special occasions. So go ahead and choose your best answer from the list given below to answer this often asked question.

Why I Love You So Muchi_love_you

  • I can be myself when I am with you
  • Every time I look at you, my heart misses a beat
  • Love is, what you mean to me - and you mean everything.
  • I like your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care
  • The fact that you are without a doubt my true soul mate
  • The fact that you are the first and only person I’ve ever loved and the first person who ever truly loved me.
  • The amazing way you always seem to be able to read my mind
  • You bring out the best in me.
  • Just a sight of you lifts my up spirits.
  • You have taught me what it is to love and be loved.
  • I can be clumsy and foolish when I am with you, yet know that your love for me will never diminish.
  • Your smile is enough to make a dull day seem bright as sun.
  • Being in your arms makes me feel like I can never be lost again.
  • I have had the time of my life and I owe it all to you
  • We can talk about everything or nothing--it's always okay with you
  • When you listen, I know you're really listening and not just waiting for your turn to talk
  • I can feel your love, in the warmth of your touch, 'cause it touches my heart and soul
  • You always know just how to spoil me.
  • When we're together, time just comes to a halt.
  • Your loving gaze is enough to carry me through a long day.
  • You're the one who makes happiness happen.
  • Because of you, no matter what may come tomorrow, today my life is more complete.
  • I want to stay forever with you.
  • I just can't imagine being me without you.
  • Just a touch...and I lose my heart all over again.
  • Whenever I need it most you're there with your all-purpose hugs.
  • Ever since you have come into my life, I yearn to come back home and see your lovely smile.
  • Your innocence makes me forget all shady things of this world.
  • I love the way you get angry whenever I am late; yet wait for me for as long as it takes.
  • You have given meaning to my existence.
  • You are the only one who can make me smile even in my deepest sorrows.
  • I respect the faith you have in me and love you for it.
  • I get lost in the depth of your mysterious eyes.
  • You always make me feel that you are by my side no matter what
  • The way that you always look for and find the positive in everything


Monday, January 9, 2012

“Bright Star” A Romantic Love Poem


“Bright Star” A Romantic Love Poem

   The poem “Bright Star” was written by an English poet, John Keats to show his infatuation to be with his lover for eternity. The main theme of the poem deals with the love and appreciation of things that are unchanging. The poet expresses deep feelings towards his lover and would welcome death, if he had to live without her. Express your love for your beloved by reciting the following poem to show how much the person means to you. A perfect and ideal Valentine’s Day gift for your beloved to describe your innermost desires to be immortal, unchanged and rejuvenated! Given here are the lyrics of the poem ‘Bright Star’, do have a look. 


Bright Star

- John Keats
Bright star, would I were steadfast as thou art
Not in lone splendor hung aloft the night,
And watching, with eternal lids apart,
Like nature's patient sleepless eremite,
The moving waters at their priest like task
Of pure ablution round earth's human shores,
Or gazing on the new soft-fallen mask
Of snow upon the mountains and the moors;
No yet still steadfast, still unchangeable,
Pillow'd upon my fair love's ripening breast,
To feel for ever its soft fall and swell,
Awake forever in a sweet unrest,
Still, still to hear her tender-taken breath,
And so live ever or else swoon to death.

Romance With Feng Shui! A Passion! A Legend!

how-to-feng-shui-bedroom-art_WidePlayerCelebrate Valentine's, a time for couples, a time to express love and fondness, a time to share togetherness, in Feng Shui style. Feng Shui is a Chinese art of setting up your living place in accordance to the energy of nature. It encourages the entry of positive energy around the place where you live and work. Feng Shui is believed to help in activating love, luck and romance filled life. So why not convert that dull and boring love into spice and seduction this Valentine's the Feng Shui way! Explore this article to know how you can to add romance to your love life with Feng Shui.

Feng Shui Romance

  • jewish-feng-shuiRemove all useless and old things and stuff from your home to maintain cleanliness.
  • Purchase some beautiful motif bed sheets for your bed. Be sure to use soft romantic colors like pink and beige to decorate your room.
  • Do not forget to place two red cushions in the love corner of your home.
  • Decorate flower vases with fresh flowers like red roses and tulips and place them at different locations to spread their fragrance all over the home.
  • Spray lavender, vanilla and/or cinnamon to freshen up your room.
  • Relocate your furniture just an inch or so to generate positive energy.
  • feng_shui6The peaceful sounds of trickling water from the small tabletop water fountain are believed to increase joy and reduce stress in your Valentine's career.
  • To set up the romantic mood, use yellow, red and white lights.
  • Play soft and soothing music instead of the TV in your bedroom to set yourself in the romantic and sexy mood.
  • Place natural quartz crystals on the southwest corner as they are believed to be a great source of positive energy.
  • Hang a five-rod wind chime above the toilet door to avoid problems in your love and married life in case it is located on the southwest corner of your home as this is the direction of love and romance.
  • crystal_feng_shui_figurine_840Do remember to place rainbow crystal pieces in your room windows to let the colorful energy enter your room.
  • Place romantic photos of you and your partner enjoying life for positive luck.
  • Your home should be well-ventilated so that the old energy can find space to move out while the new one can enter.
  • In case your sweetheart is eco-friendly, plant a pair of trees or rose bushes to honor your loving relationship



How to Know! You Are Loved!

valvic9  So, you have known this guy for quite some time now. You love being with him and never feel lonely when he is around. Your face breaks into a smile at the very mention of his name. The first person you think of when you get up in the morning is him. But does he feel the same way about you too? Guys are finicky when it comes to admitting that they like a girl. And more often than not, they end up losing the girl just because it is too late to tell her that he is in love. Just to make it easy for both you and him, we bring you sure shot signs that he loves you. Read on about ways to find if a guy or women like you and how to know if he or she loves you.

Ways To Tell A Guy Likes You

  • He takes interest in your day-to-day life. He asks how your day was and feels concerned if anything is wrong.
  • His behavior suddenly changes when you come around. He suddenly mellows down and becomes a bit quieter while chatting with his friends. Dead give away!
  • He remembers almost every small thing that you say. It shows how special you are.
  • He calls up just to listen to your voice and gives a silly reason when you ask as to why he called.
  • He insists on meeting up every now and then and admits how much he loves being around you.
  • He is good with everyone, but with you he goes that extra mile to ensure comfort.
  • His body language changes when you are there. He displays affection through subtle hints like stroking your cheek slightly, taking your hand in his palms and being less stiff.
  • He tries to be overtly friendly with you and takes that extra step to know more about you, your family and your friends.
  • When he praises only about you to his friends and family, it means he has got special feelings for you.
  • Friends are a total give away. If his friends treat you in a special way or say something about the two of you being couples, you know he is in love.
  • He looks in your eyes and you feel there is something special about it. He has this shine when he is looking at you.
  • He keeps looking at you when you are around and shy’s away when you look at him directly.

valloveThese are some sure signs that tell a guy really likes you. But do not confront him as soon as you find these signs in him. Give him some time to realize that he loves you. On the other hand, you can show him in your own ways that you like him too. You will know the right time to confide, you just do!


It is not an easy job to know whether a woman likes you. Women are by nature, nurturers. It is natural for them to lavish affection and care. So if a woman you like pampers you like a baby, don't take it for granted that she is in love with you. However, if she goes out of her way to make you feel special, then there may be chances that she really likes you. A woman gives strong yet subtle signs that she loves you. Read on further for ways to find if a girl likes you. You will find a definite answer to the question of how to know if she loves you.

How to Know if She Loves You

Ways To Tell A Girl Likes You


  • Whenever you compliment her, her cheeks turn pink. If she blushes when you are around, it means she is smitten by you.

She shows public display of affection. Women are not always comfortable with showing affection in public. But if she runs her fingers through your locks, or strokes your cheek, take notice.


  • The way she looks at you with those dreamy eyes, is a dead give away that she likes you.
  • Check out her body language when you sit with her. If she sits with cross legs facing you, it means she is interested in you. Also, if she touches your shoulders or rests her palm on yours, it is a sign that she likes you.
  • When going out with you, she takes extra care to look good. She adds sensuality to her whole outfit combined with simplicity and elegance.
  • The way she smiles and laughs at your jokes is a sign that she likes you.
  • She pays extra attention to you and takes interest in the activities you do, it means she definitely has a soft corner for you.
  • While talking to her friends and family, if she brags about you, know for sure that you are definitely someone special for her.
  • If she talks to you for long hours and avoids calls from her friends during the time of conversation, know for sure that you are being given more importance than others, which is a direct road to being loved.
  • If she always encourages you to go forward with your plans and chips in good advice for you to move ahead in personal and professional life, she is definitely an ideal lover.
  • If she wants to spend some extra time with you and help you in all ways possible, it means she is in love with you.
  • The willingness to sacrifice is a clear cut answer to know if she loves you or not. She would go that extra mile to make you happy, even if that means sacrificing her hobby.
  • Although the feeling of jealousy is not good, sometimes healthy jealousy gives hint that the other person is afraid of losing you and has feelings for you.
  • Worrying about your safety and whereabouts is one thing through which women often show their love and care. If your girl feels in the same way, know for sure you are her special one.
  • During a conversation with you, if she blinks her eye, know that the girl in question is trying to give you hints.

valdloveBy now you should be sure as to what are the signs to watch out for if a girl truly likes you. More than anything else, it is important to respect her emotions than play with them. So if the woman you like is showing these signs, don't be hesitant to go and speak out your mind to her. Who knows you may be in for a pleasant surprise!!

Sunday, January 8, 2012

History of Magical Rose

A Brief History of Roses

“It was roses, roses all the way”

By- Robert Browning

What’s in a name?

“That which we call a rose; by any other name would smell as sweet?”

- William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet, Act 2 scene 2

redsingleRoses have a long and colorful history. According to fossil evidence, the rose is 35 million years old. Today, there are over 30,000 varieties of roses and it has the most complicated family tree of any known flower species.

The cultivation of roses most likely began in Asia around 5000 years ago. They have been part of the human experience ever since and mentions of the flower are woven into a great many tales from the ancient world.

And there are so many beautiful stories that include roses through out the ages that we all can recognize.

Greek mythology tells us that it was Aphrodite who gave the rose its name, but it was the goddess of flowers, Chloris, who created it. One day while Chloris was cleaning in the forest she found the lifeless body of a beautiful nymph. To right this wrong Chloris enlisted the help of Aphrodite, the goddess of love, who gave her beauty; then called upon Dionysus, the god of wine, who added nectar to give her a sweet scent. When it was their turn the three Graces gave Chloris charm, brightness and joy. Then Zephyr, the West Wind, blew away the clouds so that Apollo, the sun god, could shine and make the flower bloom. And so the Rose was…

In another story, an ancient Hindu legend, Brahma (the creator of the world) and Vishnu (the protector of the world) argued over whether the lotus was more beautiful than the rose. Vishnu backed the rose, while Brahma supported the lotus. But Brahma had never seen a rose before and when he did he immediately recanted. As a reward Brahma created a bride for Vishnu and called her Lakshmi she was created from 108 large and 1008 small rose petals.

Several thousands of years later, on the other side of the world in Crete, there are Frescoes which date to c. 1700BC illustrating a rose with five-pedaled pink blooms. Discoveries of tombs in Egypt have revealed wreaths made with flowers, with roses among them. The wreath in the tomb of Hawara (discovered by the English archaeologist William Flinders Petrie) dates to about AD 170, and represents the oldest preserved record of a rose species still living. Roses later became synonymous with the worst excesses of the Roman Empire when the peasants were reduced to growing roses instead of food crops in order to satisfy the demands of their rulers. The emperors filled their swimming baths and fountains with rose-water and sat on carpets of rose petals for their feasts and orgies. Roses were used as confetti at celebrations, for medicinal purposes, and as a source of perfume. Heliogabalus used to enjoy showering his guests with rose petals which tumbled down from the ceiling during the festivities.

During the fifteenth century, the factions fighting to control England used the rose as a symbol. The white rose represented York, and the red rose symbolized Lancaster. Not surprisingly, the conflict between these factions became known as the War of the Roses.

rose13a-120x140In the seventeenth century roses were in such high demand that roses and rose water were considered as legal tender. In this capacity they were used as barter in the markets as well as for any payments the common people had to make to royalty. Napoleon’s wife Josephine loved roses so much she established an extensive collection at Chateau de Malmaison, an estate seven miles west of Paris. This garden of more than 250 rose varieties became the setting for Pierre Joseph Redoute’s work as a botanical illustrator and it was here Redoute completed his watercolor collection “Les Rose,” which is still considered one of the finest records of botanical illustration.

Cultivated roses weren’t introduced into Europe until the late eighteenth century. These introductions came from China and were repeat bloomers, making them of great interest to hybridizers who no longer had to wait once a year for their roses to bloom.

From this introduction, experts today tend to divide all roses into two groups. There are old roses (Those cultivated in Europe before 1800) and modern roses (Those which began to be cultivated in England and France around the turn of the 19th century).

Until the beginning of the 19th century, all roses in Europe were shades of pink or white. Our romantic symbol of the red rose first came from China around 1800. Unusual green roses arrived a few decades later.

Bright yellow roses entered the palette around 1900. It was the Frenchman Joseph Permet-Ducher who is credited with the discovery. After more than 20 years of breeding roses in a search for a hardy yellow variety, he luck changed when one day he simply stumbled across a mutant yellow flower in a field. We have had yellow and orange roses ever since

The rose is a phenomenal plant and is rightly known as the worlds favorite flower. No other flower has ever experienced the same popularity that the rose has enjoyed in the last fifth years. In temperate climates, roses are more widely grown than any other ornamental plant, and as cut flowers they are forever in fashion.

It has been estimated that 150 million plants are purchased by gardeners worldwide every year, and sophisticated breeding programs have produced a plant that dominates the world’s cut flower market; the annual crop is calculated in tons. Roses have also made a tremendous contribution to the perfume industry.

Roses boast an ancient lineage, and they are intricately entwined in our history and culture.

As a motif, the rose has been and still is depicted in many national emblems. It has been adopted by countless political factions, and even by businesses and several international events.


redrose2Rose’s species have a natural distribution through out most parts of the Northern Hemisphere. Paleontologists inform us that they become established in the Tertiary Period, which began 70 million years ago. This means that the ancestors of the rose predate the evolution of humans

Europe and the Middle East – The Dawn of Rose Breeding

Well before the Christian era, the transportation of useful plants had played an essential part in the expansion of civilizations. The sprawling Roman Empire together with the excursions of Alexander the Great in Asia introduced many species never seen before in the Middle East and Europe. The dog rose (Rosa canina), for example, was long thought to be a native of Britain, but was in fact brought there by the Romans.

By about AD 1200 the first five groups of domesticated roses had already begun to evolve in cultivation: Albas, Centifolias, Damasks, Gallicas and Scots Roses.

The Far East – the Birthplace of the Modern Garden Rose

Although rose growing enjoined high popularity in the gardens of Europe for many hundreds of years, it was not until the end of the eighteenth century, with the discovery of R. chinensis in China, that a major step forward was achieved. The revolutionary characteristic of this rose is its ability to flower repeatedly from early summer to late autumn.

Some commentators have used the term perpetual flowering But this can be misinterpreted and used too literally. Parsons Pink China, Slater’s Crimson China, Humes Blush Tea-scented China and Parks Yellow Tea-scented China The first cultivated varieties opened up a new vista of roses with a modern classical shape, a true crimson color with a very pale hint of the early yellows and a repeat flowering performance. The Far East became the birthplace of the Modern Garden Rose, and the rest is history.

East Meets West

The introduction of roses from the Far East coincided rather neatly with the advent of modern breeding techniques. Although the sexual function of the flower, in particular the function of the anthers and stigma had been revealed in the seventeenth century, this discovery was not used in practical plant breeding for another two hundred years before this time, primitive Rose breeders would place two distinct varieties in pots together when both were in full bloom; they knew that there was a reasonable chance that the plants would cross-breed and produce seedlings with shared characteristics of the two parents.

In the early part of the nineteenth century, hybridists, primarily French amateurs, began a planned breeding program with very gratifying results. This was quickly followed up with some enthusiasm by rose-growing devotees all around the world. Soon, rose breeding without first planning the parentage became unthinkable.

The subsequent g=progeny produced were identified by groups usually names after their town or country of origin, the hybridist and, in some cases, a wealthy patron. Thus, collective terms such as Bourbons, Noisettes, Hybrid Perpetual and Portland’s came into existence with varying degrees of success. Eventually, the collective term Hybrid Teas was coined; 1867 is the date usually quoted when this modern group became a recognizable entity. Since that time, Hybrid Teas (also known as Large-flowered Roses), have progressed from strength to strength.

The Last Fifty Years

The early 1950s was a decisive time in the history of the rose. Gardening for leisure, rather than for food, became increasingly popular, and this coincided with the release of a new rose variety called Peace. It is difficult to convey the impact this rose had on gardeners-simply put, everybody was growing it! Peace almost single-handedly advanced the popularity of the rose out of all proportion to any other garden plant.

In the last decade there have been many new schools of thought on the role of the rose in the garden. No longer are we subjected to endless formal flowerbeds solely devoted to this single genus. It is not that gardeners have lost their appreciation of these superb blooms, rather it is that they have discovered how wonderful roses can look when grown informally among other plants such as clematis, honeysuckles, delphiniums, lavender, spring bulbs and geraniums.

Although disease still rears its ugly head on certain occasion, the rose has become a much more adaptable plant; varieties are available that can be grown as shrubs, climbers, ground covers or in pots. Nowadays, the rose has a place in every garden, even the smallest back yard, and it is telling that the Patio Rose Sweet Dream is one of the best-selling roses today.


rose6a-120x140As with most plants that have long been closely associated with the history of people, the rose has become deeply ingrained in our culture and beliefs. The Romans, who originally cultivated the rose as a medicinal plant, also used the blooms to enhance their festivities.

The Greeks, however, accepted the rose as a complement to the progress of their culture. Whenever a secret meeting was held, the Greeks used roses to decorate the ceilings of their conference rooms. This indicated that everything discussed was confidential, which is the origin of the phrase sub Rosa.

In fifteenth century England, roses were chosen to represent the two rival royal factions: the white rose of the House of York and the red rose of the House of Lancaster. The heraldic Tudor Rose emerged as the emblem of royalty. More recently, roses have been used as motifs to further the aspirations of political parties and national sporting teams.

Evolution of the Rose

Throughout the history of civilization, no other flower has been so immortalized and integrated into daily life as the rose. From poetry to music, from festivities to wars, Mothers Day to St Valentines Day, and birth to death, the rose has held a unique role. There are over 4000 roses listed in this monograph, and they are testimony enough to convince even the ultimate skeptic that roses have a rich tapestry of evolution stretching way back in time. Just how the genus Rosa managed to, and continues to, evolve into one of the worlds favorite flowers is an interesting horticultural puzzle. To fully appreciate the development of roses up to the present day, a brief exploration of the early history of roses before 1800 is needed.

Roses in Antiquity

ROSEPAINT3Fossil remains found on a slate deposit in Colorado indicate that roses estimated 40 million years ago in North America. Other important fossil findings through the Northern Hemisphere have confirmed the very ancient existence of roses growing as far north as Alaska and Norway and as far south as Mexico. No Wild Roses have been found to grow below the equator, although roses now thrive in the Southern Hemisphere thanks to the deliberate intervention of civilization.

Where or when the genus Rosa originated is unknown in spite of the wealth of fossil studies. In theory, the early Wild Roses were most likely cultivated for their hips, which have some nutritional properties, as were their close relatives, the cherries, plums and apples. Most of these early species roses were five-petalled, pink or white with some yellows from China. As civilizations developed trade, accidental crosses of there early species started the evolutionary process as they were grown along side each other.

Mention of roses appeared frequently in the written records of early civilizations, such as those of the Chinese, Egyptians, Greeks, Phoenicians and Romans. In 500 BC, Confucius wrote about the roses growing in the Imperial Rose Garden of the Chinese Emperor, Who also had an extensive library of books about roses. It is from such writings that we can glean a picture of rose distribution and cultivation.

The oldest rose we can identify today is Rosa gallica, which gives very fragrant flowers of deep pink to crimson followed by brick red, sub-globose or turbine hops. The exact geographical origin of R. Gallic is unknown, but there are references to it by the Persians in the twelfth century BC; they regarded it as a strong symbol of love and commitment. The next identifiable rose was the very fragrant R. damasccena, which appeared in descriptive texts around 900 BC. In 50 BC a northern African variant called R. damascena semperflorens, the? Autumn Damask captivated the Romans for its ability to give two bloom cycles instead of just one. Traced back to the fifth century BC, it is believed to have resulted from a cross between R. gallica and T. moschata (the musk rose). Until the discovery and importation of China roses from the Orient in the late eighteenth century, R damascena semperflorens was the only repeat-bloomers known to the Western world.

Another rose of great historical importance was the Alba Rose, White Rose of York, the emblem of the great House of York during the fifteenth century Wars of the Roses. R. Alba is probably a lot older, dating back to as early as the second century AD.

In early European times, the evolution of the rose had reached a well-defined, simple family tree, which had five distinctive Old Garden Rose classifications: Gallica, Alba, Damask, Centifolia and Moss.

Roses in the New World

rosesOf the 200 species of Wild Roses know worldwide, about 35 are considered indigenous to the Unites State, which makes the rose an American as apple pie. The first American species mentioned in European texts was R. virginiana; notable other species are R. Carolina, the Pasture Rose R. setigera, the Prairie Rose R. California, R woodsii and R. palustris, the Swamp Rose. Several of these are named after their naturally selected habitat. Captain John Smith wrote about the Indians of the James River Valley who planted Wild Roses to adorn their village surroundings. In 1621, Edward Winslow, a founder of the Plymouth Colony, planted lots of fragrant white, red and Damask Roses.

Modern Roses

In 1867, the French breeder Guillot introduced a medium pink variety called La France. This variety was considered unique in that it possessed the general habit of a Hybrid Perpetual (Mme Victor Verdier, its seed parent) as well as the elegantly shaped buds and free-flowering character of a Tea Rose (Mme Bravy the pollen parent). Recognition that La France demonstrated a new group was delayed for almost thirty years of acrimonious discussion in the popular horticultural magazine of the era Gardeners Chronicle. Nevertheless, the first Hybrid Tea had been born! Although technical difficulties hindered the direct mimicking of Guillots work, practical experience over the following twenty years finally resolved the problems and rapid expansion of the Hybrid Tea class with different colors and foliage took place. Hybrid Teas, now known as Large-flowered Roses, quickly replaced Hybrid Perpetual in popularity in gardens all over Europe and America.

Planned breeding has now developed over 10,000 Hybrid Teas that demonstrate a wide range of color and blends and even stripes!

Rose Plant Care Yearly Calendar

Rose Care Calendar 2012

Month by Month Guide


January: Pruning, Bare Roots, Repotting and Renewal

This month we force the roses into dormancy. How is this done? Pruning each bush back and removing all foliage forces the energy of growing back into the roots and canes. Look for a pruning class to give you the training or email us for help. You should always start with clean sharp bypass pruners. Seal large canes with white glue. Clean all debris under each bush. The final step will be using a dormant spray such as lime sulfur and/or horticulture oil to prevent disease and pests on the new growth. Finish the job with a 3 inch layer of mulch.

Pictured above: My Sunshine (Miniature: yellow)

Need a new rose? It's bare root rose season! Nurseries are ripe with young plants. Roses are rated in size by "grade." Stick with Grade 1 or 1.5 as they will have the best cane size. Canes should look healthy and green. If the canes are shriveled, do not purchase this plant. It is very dehydrated and will have a difficult time thriving.

While the weather is cool and the roses are quiet, January is an ideal time to repot roses. Potted roses need soil renewal every 2 to 3 years Soil gets depleted as witnessed with the soil level slowly dropping away. Always start with potting soil rich with organic matter with a soil pH around 6.5.

Do not fertilize your roses. When there is 3 inches of new growth, then you should fertilize.

February: New Growth and Finish Pruning

The weather will remain cool and growth comes slowly. Roses require a soil temperature of 60º F to grow. Roses in pots will resume their growth quicker as the sun can warm the soil easier. Some rosarians like to start all new plants in pots to see how they perform as well as giving them a chance to get a good head start. It is far easier to remove a poor performer from a pot than to dig it out of the ground.

It still is not too late to prune. Some rosarians believe the later you prune, the less disease you will encounter as the rainy season ends and prevents that ideal symbiosis of damp nights and warm days that lead to mildew and rust. It is still advised that a dormancy spray still be used regardless of when you prune.

March: Rebirth and Fertilization

PINKSINGLEThe weather gets warmer and the sun graces us longer. Time to admire the new growth and buds! Some gardeners are lucky by month's end to see the first blooms. Due to their slow growth, these first blooms will be your biggest for the year.

When your plants have 3 inches of new growth, fertilizer may be added. Organic fertilizers release slowly and gently feed the plants. Inorganic fertilizers rapidly release and will need more frequent use. Whatever type you use, the package will describe the amount and frequency at which it should be applied. Do not feed and starve your plants! They will reward you with frustration, disease and little or no blooming. An easy program is to get a three-month time released rose fertilizer. Every time you water the rose, it gets fed. A good way to remember is March, June and September for the feeding schedule--a changing of the season, a change of food. Three times per year is all that would be needed. Easy!

Each fertilizer has a three-digit rating called an N-P-K rating. This stands for Nitrogen-Phosphorus-Potassium. Each is a key ingredient to rose development. Nitrogen is the key to green growth and leaves. Early season feeding should gear towards this as you do not want to encourage early bloom, only leading to short stems and big flowers. Phosphorous is important for bloom production. While potassium creates strong canes to support those lovely flowers. Indoor plant food cannot be used on roses. The result would be a lush green plant with no blooms. Look for a fertilizer designed for roses or ornamental flowering plants. Contact the Orange County Rose Society to help guide you. It is free! Local nurseries can assist you also. You don't like to starve and neither does the rose.

April: First Bloom and Pests

By now you should have lots of buds and be anxiously awaiting the arrival of that marvelous color splash. Unfortunately, some outsiders may have discovered your rose buds, too. Common for this time of year are aphids. These insects are usually green and are found on the buds and neck of the roses looking for tender growth upon which to feed. Quick fixes for this are taking the hose sprayer and blasting them off, squish them with your fingers (best if done wearing gloves) or an insecticidal soap designed for this predator. Local sparrows and finches delight in eating these off your plants. Ladybugs and their larvae will help, but they do not stay long in your garden.

Another annoyance may be small holes appearing on the leaves. These are caused by rose slugs--larvae of the sawfly. They feast underneath the leaves. To locate them, follow the trail of holes up the plant until they stop. Turn over the leaf and you will see green caterpillar-like worms. To rid your garden of these you can once again squish them (which is very time consuming if you have many bushes) or spray underneath the leaves with an insecticide specific for this insect.. Our rainy season winds down so vigilance with watering is a must.

May: Disease Watch and Water

CharoletteThe first bloom cycle is over and now it is time to deadhead those spent blooms. Just as in pruning cutting back the old flower just above a five-leaflet that faces outward. Keep that center of the rose open all season to aid in air circulation. Another chore is to remove leaflets close to the ground to allow air circulation from underneath the plant. For hybrids teas, grandifloras, floribundas and climbers, clear 8" of leaves from the bottom. Smaller plants such as miniatures or minifloras 3-4" is a good rule of thumb.

Water your roses. How often? The warmer it gets, the more frequent this chore should be. Potted roses especially need to have frequent watering as they cannot draw from the soil like their in-the-ground counterparts can. Just like starving your roses of food, denying them of water will also cause your roses to shut down. A steady diet of water is a must. A quick rule to use:

  • 70-80º: twice a week
  • 80-90º: 3-4 times a week
  • 90 and above: daily
  • Above 100º: twice a day

It is hard to overwater roses if they are planted in loose, draining soil. Clay soil, which is prevalent in Orange County, will hold water and potentially suffocate the roots depriving them of oxygen. Clay soil can be amended to break down the clay with gypsum and compost. If you have trouble growing roses, a visit from one of our Consulting Rotarians might help you.

June: June Gloom

Nothing like the gray days of June especially for those living within 10 miles of the coast. Mildew watch must be done. Once mildew is on your plant, you cannot kill it. The fungus has invaded the cells to help it grow. To help prevent further spread, it must be removed. Disinfect your clippers before moving on to another bush. This can be accomplished quickly with a disinfectant wipe or a disinfectant spray. Dry the clippers after this. It is best to prevent mildew before it arrives. Fungicides are used to prevent mildew, rust, anthracnose, black spot and downy mildew. Consult with the Orange County Rose Society or your local nursery to find the product you need. There are also organic mildew sprays such as Neem Oil.

Don't forget about water. Water in the morning hours so that the sun may dry the leaves and this will help prevent fungus problems. Watering at night will add crucial moisture for the mildew to grow.

July: Water, Grasshoppers and New Pests

Did we mention watering your roses?

Grasshoppers are elusive creatures that frustrate gardeners. On roses, they will chomp at the buds and eat the leaves leaving an irregular border. Other than birds catching them, you'll need to invoke stalking them from behind and chopping their heads off to kill them. They can hide behind fences. Spraying the plants with water can flush them out so keep your shears close to nab them. Their outer skin (exoskeleton) is tough and rather impermeable to pesticides.

Spraying roses in hotter weather requires a little more TLC. Make sure your plant is watered prior to starting. Using half-strength sprays will be less harsh. If the temperature is over 85ºF do not spray.

Two new visitors may be visiting your garden. Thrips are very tiny insects found deep within the petals. They are 1/16" long and typically seen in the light colored roses. Their damage will be seen with a slight brown edging to the petals. Spinosad drenching of the buds will help this. The second and more menacing are spider mites. They nest underneath the leaves. Rubbing under the leaves you will notice a gritty feel. Long term damage will result in dying leaves and defoliation. An easy solution is to blast the undersides of the leaves with water. When the underside feels smooth, you have removed these mites. A mite spray will also remove these critters.

August: Minor Pruning

rose2aRoses can get a bit tall by summer's end. A light pruning will help bring that rose back to earth. This time you do not remove the leaves! By taking the top one-third of the rose off, energy is signaled back to the canes, slowing the push to bloom and therefore bigger fall roses.

Japanese beetles are not found in Southern California. The Fig Beetle is similar but more than twice the size and may be seen in your garden. They will chew at your rose.

September: More Pests

Cooler nights are coming soon. Aphids may return so follow the program outlined in April to rid your garden of this. There may be different holes in the leaves. Big round ones. These are made by the cutter bee. They are taking the leaves and lining their nests. They look like black honey bees and are fascinating to watch how they make that perfect circle cut. Holes in the buds are caterpillars. Remove these buds.

October: Final Feeding and Rose Shows

In preparation for the winter hibernation of the rose, you want to let the rose know it is time to slow down. October is the last month to feed your roses. Less food equals less growth. As the nights are cooler, the roses will not re-bloom as quickly. Fall blooms are definitely larger than summer's. Keep your plants well hydrated ahead of Santa Ana conditions which can dehydrate plants very quickly and stress the roses. Stress may lead to more disease as the rose tries to recover.

Late September and October are rose show times in Southern California. These shows are free to the public after judging has finished. Visiting one of these shows can give you an idea of the selection of all types of roses that can be grown in our area. Little known varieties such as polyanthus or shrub roses are largely overlooked in favor of the stately hybrid teas or floribundas. Small garden spaces will easily allow space for the former, which are very disease resistant and prolific bloomers. The Orange County Rose Society presents their Crates of Roses show at the end of October at Roger's Gardens in Corona Del Mar. This is a two-day event that features hundreds of roses and arrangements.

November: Last Call

Depending on the weather, roses will still be blooming in November. A bouquet of orange and yellow roses look lovely on the Thanksgiving table. Keep watering until the rains start. Having a rain gauge will give you an idea of how much water your garden has received.

December: Rest and Planning

Like the end of the calendar, it is the end of the rose season. Late blooms may grace the dwindling light. Instead of cutting back or dead heading, remove the spent petals leaving the growing rose hip to add some late season green, red or orange fruit on your plants. This will also signal your plants to rest.

Heavy garden gloves, pruners and kneeling benches make wonderful holiday gifts for any gardener.

Rose catalogs are out and time to see if there are some duds to remove and replace with a fresh plant or two. Not all roses will grow well in our diverse Orange County climate. Generally, we have 2 climates to work around. First is the coastal area which is ripe with overcast/foggy mornings. Less sunlight available makes it harder to grow heavily pedaled roses. If you find yourself in this area, roses with 25 petals or less are ideal as well as very disease resistant plants. Mildew is a big problem along the coast. Next is the inland climate where there is plenty of sunshine and hotter temperatures. This area can grow roses with greater than 25 petals. Look for roses that can take those 100º+ temperatures.