FOR-GIVE AND RECIEVE
Forgiving is For Thanks And Giving
With the holidays just around the corner, and families and friends getting together, I wanted to share with you an incredible and powerful law of the Universe that I have 
I would like to share those gifts with you, to deepen your understanding of the many wonderful benefits of forgiveness.
Gift #1. Forgiving is for giving yourself the freedom to be happy again.
As long as you bear a grudge against someone you will be unhappy—feeling frustrated, bitter, or angry. You will be suffering, while the person you resent might not even be aware that you resent him or her . . . or care! When you forgive, you stop giving that person power over how you feel. You break that negative emotional tie, and free yourself to be happy again.
Gift #2. Forgiving is for giving yourself the ability to be attuned to divine wisdom.
When you harbor resentments, you are in ego—that judgmental state of mind that not only causes you to feel separate from others, but also causes you to feel separate from any kind of Higher Power. When you forgive, you reconnect with that Higher Power—returning to a state of mind that is once again open and receptive to divine insights, inspiration, and intuitive direction.
Gift #3. Forgiving is for giving yourself valuable insights about yourself.
Sometimes the person whom you need to forgive is actually “mirroring” a behavioral trait that you may have, but don’t want to consciously admit. If you are willing to “look in that mirror,” you may see something within yourself that needs healing. For instance, you may discover a long-neglected emotional wound that has been causing you to behave in unproductive ways. But now that it’s revealed, you have the opportunity to heal that wound through a little self-love . . . as well as the opportunity to see that person who is your “mirror image” in a more compassionate light.
Gift #4. Forgiving is for giving yourself the ability to enjoy the peace that exists in the here and now moment.
Whatever it is that is causing you to feel resentful, happened in the past, right? Perhaps it was only yesterday, but it still happened in the past. By harboring those negative feelings, you are keeping the past alive. Generally, the now moment is pretty peaceful. But you rob yourself of that peace by dwelling on something that is not actually happening in the here and now. If you want to be able to enjoy the peace of the present, let go of the past through forgiveness.
Gift #5. Forgiving is for giving yourself the power to create a different future.
The future is formed in the present, through the thoughts and feelings that you are having right this minute. If you have dragged the past into the present through non forgiveness, then it is highly likely that you will create a future that is just like the past. If you want a different future, forgive what happened in the past—let go of it—and open yourself up to the infinite possibilities that exist when your mind is free of all prior influences.
"Forgiveness is the demonstration that you are the light
of the world. Through your forgiveness does the truth
about your self return to your memory."
.....Course in Miracles
University Research Proves
It Can Be Better to Give Than to Receive
Gifts Say More About Us Than We Know Happy birthday, congratulations, thank you, I love you, thinking of you. Each day, millions of gifts are exchanged by 
Rutgers University researcher Jeannette Haviland-Jones, Ph.D., director of the university’s Human Emotions Lab, explored what the gifts we choose say about who we are and whether they affect how we are perceived. The research reveals that those who send flowers, in comparison to other gifts, are viewed as successful, caring and emotionally intelligent people. More specific findings include:
- Both men and women who give flowers are perceived as happy, achieving, strong, capable and courageous people;
- Men and women come across as more emotionally intelligent; they give the impression they can effectively express their feelings and take time to understand the feelings of others;
- and Female floral gifters are viewed as more appreciative of beauty and nature.
“Our findings show that you can influence and change what people think of you in a significant way through the gifts you give,” says Haviland-Jones. “That news is particularly important to those interested in enhancing friendships and romances, even business relationships.”
Discovering the scientific power of flowers is not new to Haviland-Jones. Previous Rutgers University research conducted by her team found that flowers create instant delight and happiness, and increase enjoyment and life satisfaction. Specifically, upon receiving a gift of flowers, the female study participants responded with true smiles and reported positive moods that lasted for days. The presence of flowers also led to increased contact with family and
friends.
“Flowers have evolved to activate positive emotional responses from people,” says Haviland-Jones. “Each bloom has the potential to put a smile on our face and sway our opinion of a friend, colleague or loved one. That’s powerful.”
M.J. Ryan, award-winning author of the Random Acts of Kindness book series and The Giving Heart, uses cutting-edge science to bring out the best in people. In her books, she teaches individuals how gratitude and generosity can result in greater happiness, health and feelings of human connectivity.
“Gift recipients experience compelling connections with givers, and the positive link is particularly evident in the exchange of flowers,” says Ryan. “In my everyday work with individuals, CEOs and leadership teams at some of the world’s top global companies, I see the powerful implications of gratitude and appreciation.”
According to Ryan, a simple call to the florist can make a big impact beyond conventional gifting occasions. Some of her favorite, unexpected gifting opportunities include surprise recognition for a job well done; an “I miss you” gift for an out-of-town family member; and an advance “thanks for hosting us” gesture before visiting a friend’s house.
“A successful person is not necessarily someone with a lot of money and material goods, but rather someone who is in tune with people and knows how to touch their hearts,” says Ryan. “I can think of no other item besides flowers that evokes such positive feelings and perceptions for both the giver and the recipient.”
So an attitude of gratitude brings the angels near. When we are appreciated, we tend to give more to the person appreciating us. The angels are not different. So this day of Thanksgiving is an appropriate time to give thanks for all we have in our lives. The things we appreciate grow. What our mind dwells on is what grows into fruition in our lives. We reap what we sow.
"If you learn to appreciate more of what you already have, you'll find yourself having more to appreciate."
An attitude of gratitude brings the angels near. When we are appreciated, we tend to give more to the person appreciating us. So this day of Thanksgiving is an appropriate time to give thanks for all we have in our lives. The things we appreciate grow. What our mind dwells on is what grows into fruition in our lives. We reap what we sow.
In this time of rushing through life it is easy to not stop and take time to appreciate what we already have. We are so goal oriented, we are always living in the future. We cannot live the future now. The only power we have is in this moment. Once one realizes the truth of this statement, then and only then can they begin to live in the now and be grateful for what they already have. It's vitally important that we not lose sight of the things that are near and dear-things we all too easily take for granted.
What we hold in our minds, meditate on, increases. If we focus on our problems they grow. If we thank the our Higher Power even for what we call problems then they, too, become blessings -- a challenge maybe, but a chance to overcome them and grow. After all, you created what you call problems; you and only you know exactly what you need to grow.
If you focus on where you want to be in life, while being grateful for where you are now, you will expand the opportunities to create your life just as you would like it to be. I see meditating on our problems as another form of prayer. When we worry and fret over things, we make them bigger than they really are, as well as attract more of the same. That's negative prayer-prayer in reverse.
Gratitude for what we HAVE and what we WANT and appreciate! Focus today, no matter what is happening in your life, on the here and now. Be grateful for what you do have and be grateful you are growing toward where you want to be. Before going to sleep tonight spend time thinking of three things you are grateful for. This is a powerful time of day you are in - that half wakeful and half sleep stage. The mind is easy to program at this time of day. Gratefulness is a state of mind that should be practiced daily instead of yearly. Make everyday Thanksgiving.
In This time of rushing through life it is easy to not stop and take time to appreciate what we already have. We are so goal oriented, we are always living in the future. We cannot live the future now. The only power we have is in this moment. Once one realizes the truth of this statement, then and only then can they begin to live in the now and be grateful for what they already have. It's vitally important that we not lose sight of the things that are near and dear-things we all too easily take for granted.
I thank you for reading my message!
And I as well live in appreciation and gratitude!
Have a blessed Day
Charlie Farricielli
Send Roses To Someone YOU Forgive!
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